A place where you don't have to be anyone but yourself.
A private community for men who exist somewhere in the middle — built by one of them.
Who This Is For
Maybe your life appears straight on the outside, but isn’t so straight on the inside. Maybe you’re bi or gay, but don’t fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are — and maybe you don't want one.
Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle — and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.
Middle Men does.
No labels. No judgment. No set of beliefs you need to adopt. No need to come out and blow up the life you’ve built. No pressure to be anything but your true self.
What’s Inside
✔️ A community of Middle Men to interact with
✔️ Live Q&A video sessions with Brendan, Middle Men’s founder
✔️ Jobs board — Middle Men hiring other Middle Men
✔️ Pre-released articles from the Middle Men Substack
✔️ Mental Health resources
✔️ Physical Health resources
✔️ Sexual Health resources
✔️ Musician networking board
✔️ Middle Men of Faith discussion board
✔️ Married or Partnered discussion board
✔️ Curious or Questioning discussion board
✔️ Discussion boards for runners, surfers, weight lifters, and outdoorsmen
Founder’s Story
I'm Brendan — 45, Colorado-based athlete, graphic designer, musician, and the founder of Middle Men. After growing up straight, coming out as gay in my 20s, and evolving to bi and going back into the closet in my 40s, I realized I wasn't the only guy trying to reconcile a sexuality that didn't fit society's expectations. I built this community because I knew we needed one. Welcome.
Membership Pricing
$10/month
Includes 7-day Free Trial. No credit card required at sign-up. No commitment. Cancel anytime.
FOUNDING MEMBER OFFER
The first 30 members get in at $5/month — locked in forever. Use code FIRST30 at checkout
Your membership will appear on your statement as "MIDDLE MEN." It will not reference this community or anything that identifies its nature.
FAQ
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Yes, you can sign up with any email address and name — an alias if you want to remain discreet — and try it free for 7 days. After 7 days, your trial period will end, and you will receive an email prompting you to submit a credit card number to sign-up for a membership. ***You will not be asked for a credit card number at signup, and you won’t be auto-enrolled in a paid membership. Once enrolled, you can cancel at anytime in your account settings.
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Yes! After signing up, you can access the Middle Men community from your desktop at https://community.middlemen-podcast.com/ and from your phone by downloading the “Circle Communities” app (available for both iOS and Android) and logging in using your Middle Men Community login credentials.
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Your charge will appear as "MIDDLE MEN." Nothing more. It will not reference this community, or anything that identifies its nature. If you share a bank account or credit card with someone and are concerned about privacy, we recommend using a prepaid Visa or Mastercard gift card to sign up — available at most grocery and convenience stores.
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No. You can sign up with any name — initials, a pseudonym, whatever you're comfortable with. Nobody here will ever know who you really are unless you choose to share it.
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Yes. Only paying members can see what's posted inside. What's shared in the community stays in the community.
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Guys like you. Middle Men at every stage — married, divorced, questioning, out to some, out to none, some who are bi, some who only like guys but don’t feel at-home in the gay community. All ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. No gatekeeping, no judgment.
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Yes, you can cancel your membership at any time with no questions asked, directly from your account settings.