A place where you don't have to be anyone but yourself.
A private community for men who exist somewhere in the middle — built by one of them.
Who This Is For
You live a publicly straight life, but privately, you’re not entirely straight. Maybe you're married, or were. Maybe your career, family, community, religion, or hobbies/interests require you to live a straight life. Maybe you’re bi or only into guys, but don’t fit neatly into the straight or gay world. Maybe you've never said any of this out loud to anyone.
This community was built for you — the man in the middle. No labels required. No judgment. Just other guys who get it.
What’s Inside
✔️ A community of Middle Men to interact with
✔️ Live Q&A video sessions with Brendan, Middle Men’s founder
✔️ Jobs board — Middle Men hiring other Middle Men
✔️ Essays and articles from the Middle Men Substack
✔️ Mental Health resources
✔️ Physical Health resources (workout/running plans etc)
✔️ Sexual Health resources
✔️ Musician networking board
✔️ Middle Men of Faith discussion board
✔️ Married or Partnered discussion board
✔️ Curious or Questioning discussion board
✔️ Discussion boards for runners, surfers, weight lifters, and outdoorsmen
Founder’s Story
I'm Brendan — 45, Colorado-based athlete, graphic designer, musician, and the founder of Middle Men. After growing up straight, coming out as gay, and evolving to bi and going back into the closet in my 40s, I realized I wasn't the only guy trying to reconcile a sexuality that didn't fit society's expectations. I built this community because I knew we needed one. Welcome.
Membership Pricing
$10/month
Includes 7-day Free Trial. No credit card required at sign-up. No commitment. Cancel anytime.
FOUNDING MEMBER OFFER
The first 30 members get in at $5/month — locked in forever. Use code FIRST30 at checkout
Your membership will appear on your statement as "MIDDLE MEN." It will not reference this community or anything that identifies its nature.
FAQ
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Your charge will appear as "MIDDLE MEN." Nothing more. It will not reference this community, or anything that identifies its nature. If you share a bank account or credit card with someone and are concerned about privacy, we recommend using a prepaid Visa or Mastercard gift card to sign up — available at most grocery and convenience stores.
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No. You can sign up with any name — initials, a pseudonym, whatever you're comfortable with. Nobody here will ever know who you really are unless you choose to share it.
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Yes. Only paying members can see what's posted inside. What's shared in the community stays in the community.
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Guys like you. Middle Men at every stage — married, divorced, questioning, out to some, out to none, some who are bi, some who only like guys but don’t feel at-home in the gay community. All ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. No gatekeeping, no judgment.
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Yes, you can cancel your membership at any time with no questions asked, directly from your account settings.