A podcast for men who don’t fit neatly into society’s boxes.

Who This Is For

Maybe your life appears straight on the outside, but isn’t so straight on the inside. Maybe you’re bi or gay, but don’t fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are — and maybe you don't want one.

Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle — and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.

Middle Men does.

No labels. No judgment. No set of beliefs you need to adopt. No need to come out and blow up the life you’ve built. No pressure to be anything but your true self.

Latest Podcast Episodes

Episode 2 — I Think I Might Be Bi. Now What? | What Nobody Tells You

What questioning looks like, proof you’re not alone, and where you can go for community. | July 21, 2026

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Episode 3 — You Don’t Have to Pick a Side | Sexuality Is a Spectrum

Where the pressure to choose between claiming a label comes from, and why you don’t actually have to choose. | July 28, 2026

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Brendan O'Hara — trail runner, surfer, skier, musician, designer, and weight lifter — founder of Middle Men and host of the Middle Men Podcast

Middle Men was founded and created by Brendan O’Hara, a creative professional, athlete, musician, and now podcast host.

Middle Men on Substack

Articles published bi-weekly on the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month.

*** Articles are released 1 week early in the Middle Men Community as a perk to members ***

Are You a Middle Man?

Most have never said it out loud. Never found a name for it. Never met another one.

We created an anonymous survey to understand who Middle Men really are. No name required. No email required. Just honest answers.

When you finish, you'll see how your experience compares to other guys who've taken it. How many other guys out there are like you? Take the survey to find out.

Takes 12-15 minutes. Completely anonymous.

A Community Where You Can Finally Be Your True Self

There's a private, online community of Middle Men waiting for you. No real name required. No judgment. Just guys who get it.

For $10 a month you get:

  • Private discussion boards for every corner of Middle Men life — relationships, mental health, faith/spirituality, sexual health, fitness (running, strength training, surfing, hunting/outdoors)

  • A community of like-minded people who actually understand you

  • Live Q&A video sessions with Brendan, Middle Men’s founder and podcast host

  • A jobs board where Middle Men hire other Middle Men

  • Early access to Middle Men articles

Founding Member Offer

The first 30 members get in at $5/month — locked in forever. Use code FIRST30 at checkout.

7-day free trial. Cancel anytime. No questions asked.

Your membership will appear on your statement as "MIDDLE MEN." Nothing more.